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More Than Marriage: What’s Behind Polyamory In the Church

By on September 14, 2017 in Culture, Marriage with 4 Comments

When I first heard the term “polyamory,” it sounded like one of those eyebrow-raising issues you hear about on daytime talk-shows – shocking, extreme, and on the fringe.[1] Less than a decade later, it’s creeping out of the shadows and into the mainstream, and even into the Church. What is polyamory? The word comes from […]

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Four Myths of “Living Together”

By on August 4, 2017 in Dating, Relationships, Singleness with 5 Comments

I still remember the week of my wedding. I had just graduated from seminary and needed to move out of student housing. So, Jay, my then-fiancé, moved me into the home he had just rented for us. My family was in town for the wedding, and after an evening in our home of dinner, laughter, […]

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Ms. Independent Gets Married

By on April 11, 2017 in Marriage with 3 Comments

Editor’s Note: Below is a correspondence from a reader written to Dr. Dorothy Patterson, affectionately known as “Dottie.”   Dear Dottie, What advice would you give women who are transitioning from singleness to marriage?  Unlike my parents, the Lord did not give me the opportunity to marry while I was young.  I’m in my late 20s […]

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Is it dishonest to say yes to God when you don’t really feel like it?

By on February 2, 2017 in Relationships with 0 Comments

The hope was always there that God’s will would bring us together. It might not be that, I knew, and I realized that the deepest spiritual lessons are not learned by His letting us have our way in the end, but by His making us wait, bearing with us in love and patience until we […]

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The Secret Lives of Christian Swingers

By on November 15, 2016 in Marriage

A few years ago, the Ashley Madison website made waves through the Christian community.  The site told people that having an affair would, in fact, be good for a marriage rather than harmful.  Most who spoke against it talked about the sometimes-irreparable damage it would cause on marriages. But, one of the questions that started […]

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When You’ve Gone Too Far…Again

By on September 8, 2016 in Dating with 0 Comments

As I sat across from her, I could see the sadness in her eyes. And then the confession: “Amanda, my boyfriend and I went ‘too far’… again!!” My first reaction was to blame the guy for putting pressure on her, but then the truth came out….She was the one who started the physical relationship, and […]

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Adultery, Divorce, and The Believer

By on March 31, 2016 in Marriage with 4 Comments

She sat in my office and tearfully told me she was leaving seminary to go fight for her marriage. This promising student, let’s call her Shari, had discovered her husband was the epitome of unfaithfulness. The details are not important other than to say it involved adultery, deceit, an unplanned pregnancy, and a wounding that […]

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Why Intimacy in Marriage is So Much More Than Sex

By on November 3, 2015 in Marriage with 4 Comments

This past week former NFL player and host of “World’s Funniest,” Terry Crews, was interviewed on Huffington Post Live. He admitted that he and his wife just completed a 90-day fast from sex. After seeing the shock on the interviewer’s face, he made this statement: “I found that at the end of that 90 days […]

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Single Friends, Let's Honor God in Our Dating

By on June 9, 2015 in Dating with 0 Comments

Does anyone still listen to the radio in the morning? I know I am probably one of two people on the planet that do, but I guess my shortened commute makes it an absolute burden to pull out my phone, turn on my bluetooth, and make a choice. Forget the fact that anything there would […]

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And To Think That I Saw It

By on March 17, 2015 in Culture, Relationships with 2 Comments

When I leave home to walk to school, Dad always says to me, “Marco, Keep your eyelids up And see what you can see.” Theodore Geisel, better known as Dr. Seuss, penned the lines of his first book, And to Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Street, 75 years ago. In 1940, the world, […]

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