Are You Building Up Or Tearing Down?

Chip and Joanna Gaines famously introduced interior design lovers to the chicness of shiplap, white subway tile, and galvanized metal with their ever-popular home renovation show “Fixer Upper” (a moment of silence, please, as the final episode aired this spring…).

Their trademark farmhouse-style combined with TV magic has left many a woman pining for a glamorous remodel to occur in their own houses. Jo’s fantastic ability to transform the shabby into the chic and Chip’s hilarious antics (not to mention their sweet, playful demeanor as a couple) have completely won our hearts, this is true.

But perhaps, as we reflect on our love for #demoday, we can be mindful of the “home destruction” we should be wary of.

Proverbs 14:1 tells us:

The wise woman builds her house,

but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.

The inspired word choice in this verse implies that God entrusted women with the responsibility of figuratively constructing the home. Indeed, it is the wise woman who thoughtfully tends to her household.

I have heard it affectionately said that the husband is the head of the home, while the wife is the hands. Under her husband’s authority, she manages and maintains the home.

Though the home is her passion, this wise woman is multi-faceted; she is certainly not reduced to simply being “in the kitchen, barefoot, and pregnant,” as the shallow idiom would suggest. Rather, she utilizes her “tools” to assemble efficiency and warmth together in order to establish an environment that allows for the physical, emotional, and spiritual thriving of those who enter and reside there.

These tools mentioned are among her many:

  • Common sense – she smartly stewards her family’s resources, as much as is helpful, including finances and time
  • Intellect – even if not formerly educated, she engages in stimulating conversation with the members of her household, considering each moment an opportunity to teach or sharpen
  • Ambition – with her forethought and tenacity, she blows wind into the sails of her loved ones
  • Talents – they are generously shared to benefit others creatively
  • Effort – she spells love T-I-M-E, and does not lazily indulge in ease or futile pastimes
  • Gracious Words – her tongue is guarded with self-restraint, refreshing or lovingly exhorting others with her speech
  • Her Example– her most powerful tool is to model a life of consistent Christlikeness, even in the privacy and monotony of her own house

Proverbs 14:1 conveys vivid imagery of a woman’s influence over her home, determined by whether she walks wisely or in folly. To choose the former is to acknowledge God’s Word as her life’s “blueprint,” according to the truth of Proverbs 1:7a:

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of [wisdom]…

But to choose the latter is to destroy the eternal legacy God ultimately intends to establish through a home that functions according to His ways using the faithfulness of a godly woman.

Whether single or married, a mother or childless, employed or not, which are you choosing?

One thought on “Are You Building Up Or Tearing Down?”

  1. Darlene Mayers says:

    Well said, Jillian! Thank you for sharing this! You are a creative and gifted writer!