A Ministry of Southwestern Seminary's Women's Programs

Category: Relationships

More Than Marriage: What’s Behind Polyamory In the Church

When I first heard the term “polyamory,” it sounded like one of those eyebrow-raising issues you hear about on daytime talk-shows – shocking, extreme, and on the fringe.[1] Less than a decade later, it’s creeping out of the shadows ... Read More »

Four Myths of “Living Together”

I still remember the week of my wedding. I had just graduated from seminary and needed to move out of student housing. So, Jay, my then-fiancé, moved me into the home he had just rented for us. My family was in town for the wedding, and af... Read More »

Ms. Independent Gets Married

Editor’s Note: Below is a correspondence from a reader written to Dr. Dorothy Patterson, affectionately known as “Dottie.”   Dear Dottie, What advice would you give women who are transitioning from singleness to marr... Read More »

Is it dishonest to say yes to God when you don’t really feel like it?

The hope was always there that God’s will would bring us together. It might not be that, I knew, and I realized that the deepest spiritual lessons are not learned by His letting us have our way in the end, but by His making us wait, beari... Read More »

The Secret Lives of Christian Swingers

A few years ago, the Ashley Madison website made waves through the Christian community.  The site told people that having an affair would, in fact, be good for a marriage rather than harmful.  Most who spoke against it talked about the so... Read More »

When You’ve Gone Too Far…Again

As I sat across from her, I could see the sadness in her eyes. And then the confession: “Amanda, my boyfriend and I went ‘too far’… again!!” My first reaction was to blame the guy for putting pressure on her, but then ... Read More »

Adultery, Divorce, and The Believer

She sat in my office and tearfully told me she was leaving seminary to go fight for her marriage. This promising student, let’s call her Shari, had discovered her husband was the epitome of unfaithfulness. The details are not important ot... Read More »

Why Intimacy in Marriage is So Much More Than Sex

This past week former NFL player and host of “World’s Funniest,” Terry Crews, was interviewed on Huffington Post Live. He admitted that he and his wife just completed a 90-day fast from sex. After seeing the shock on the interviewer... Read More »

Single Friends, Let's Honor God in Our Dating

Does anyone still listen to the radio in the morning? I know I am probably one of two people on the planet that do, but I guess my shortened commute makes it an absolute burden to pull out my phone, turn on my bluetooth, and make a choice. ... Read More »

And To Think That I Saw It

When I leave home to walk to school, Dad always says to me, “Marco, Keep your eyelids up And see what you can see.” Theodore Geisel, better known as Dr. Seuss, penned the lines of his first book, And to Think That I Saw It on Mulberry S... Read More »