The Lessons God Teaches Me…Through My Children
The Lord teaches me so many things through my children.
When they were young, there were days when it felt like all I did was correct behavior and try to show them that their struggle was with sin and they needed a Savior. When I would lay down at night after those long days, the Lord would show me how wayward my own heart was and how much He still loved me. As a good Father, He showed me how He grieved over my sin and He offered me forgiveness and grace.
As they got older, I learned how much I needed to depend on the Lord as a parent. I was no longer with them all day to protect them as they started school, but He was still with them. They needed a personal relationship with Jesus, but it was not something I could give them. I could teach them about Jesus and show them how to know Him, but I was dependent on the Lord to draw them to Himself. Both of my kids came to trust Jesus and know Him! But, I was and am utterly dependent on the Lord.
Now, as they enter the teen years, I am learning how much the Lord truly loves them and even when life is unfair. When they encounter tough situations, He is there for them, and for me, to sanctify us and make us more like Him.
For instance, I was at a tennis match watching my daughter play. This is her first year and she was so excited to try something new. She loves sports and God has given her natural ability in this area. As she prepared to try out for tennis, she read about all the rules, watched the Olympic tennis players, and practiced with her Dad who played in college. She made the school tennis team and was improving each match.
This particular match, she was playing a girl who looked to be competitive. As long as the other girl was winning she was nice, but as soon as she began to lose she got frustrated. Finally, she disagreed with my daughter on a call and our coach was called in to help. What she didn’t know was that my husband had watched the entire match and was keeping score. The recorded score was correct, but her competitor didn’t agree, and then accused my daughter of cheating. If you’re a mom, you know you have “buttons” that make you upset…and this was one of them.
But, earlier that week, God was spiritually preparing me for the lesson I would learn through my daughter. He taught me through Romans 12:17- 19:
“Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, ‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord.”
(I knew earlier that week when the Lord gave me those verses I was to file them away in my memory and He would bring them to mind when I needed them!)
As I sat at that match and heard another girl call my daughter a cheater, the Holy Spirit immediately brought this Scripture to my mind. I had a choice to make. I could get upset, say things that could never be taken back, or I could remain silent and see what the Lord was going to do. Out loud I said, “Lord Jesus, please keep my mouth closed” (I literally put my hand over my mouth!…Funny as that may seem, but I truly needed to guard my mouth!!)
And I’m so glad I did, when I saw how God used that situation to teach my daughter to trust Him and live for His honor. My daughter handled herself with much grace. It wasn’t about winning or losing a tennis match. It was about her choosing to reflect the character of Christ.
The Lord has been teaching me over the years that He loves my kids more than I do. He allows them to go through tough times and trying lessons to help shape them into the people He desires for them to be. He also uses them to sanctify me as their Mom.
You have a choice as well.
What is the Lord trying to teach you through your kids? We’d love to hear about it! Tell us your story in the comments.