What Story Will Your Marriage Tell?

My parents are moving to Texas.  He is 87 and she is 88.  They have taken care of each other for a lifetime and when she gently told him that she needed our help, the issue was settled.

I cannot imagine how difficult this change must be for him – leaving all that has been so familiar and comfortable. And yet, because of his great love for her, the decision is made – without hesitation, without complaint, without regret. He is still taking care of her.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.  ~Ephesians 5:24

And so the gospel has been faithfully proclaimed once again in the quietness of family life with children and grandchildren watching. Christ’s character has been accurately portrayed by my father as he lays down his life for her sake.

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. ~Ephesians 5:22

My mother has devoted her life to my father, faithfully serving him in submission and with respect.  It is not that she has not done other things in her life, but he has always been her first earthly priority.  She has been satisfied to be his bride.  My mother has confirmed the gospel by her response to my father, for in her contentment she has told the truth about what it means to be satisfied with God.

For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church.  ~Ephesians 5:31-32

It is sobering to think that my marriage is designed by God to tell the same story.  I wonder if I am telling my part clearly.

  • Am I content to be my husband’s bride?
  • Is he my first earthly priority?
  • Is my love for my husband inexplicable apart from the gospel?
  • Would anyone want to know Christ because He is revealed so undeniably by my marriage?

As I evaluate my marriage in light of my parent’s relationship, I realize that the gospel has been clearly proclaimed through theirs, for by it I have been brought to repentance.

You are a letter of Christ   ~II Corinthians 3:3a

God’s self-revelation, whether in Old Testament prophecies and laws (Jn 1:45) or in the New Testament in the person of Christ, has always been an invitation to relationship.  Scripture stands as a faithful witness to this truth.

Marriages tell the same story, but in a different way since now truth is recorded in hearts and displayed through lives. We are God’s living letters in which earthly relationships point to spiritual realities. May we faithfully tell our part of His story.

The Spirit and the bride say, “Come.” And let the one who hears say, “Come.” And let the one who is thirsty come; let the one who wishes take the water of life without cost.  ~Revelation 22:17


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